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April 25th, 2006

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01:48 pm
tonight i get to go to my first wls seminar... wow im scared and excited all in one swoop.
My younger sister and daughter are going with me, but my older sister is still on the its the "easy way out" syndrom... so oh well... she can be there all she wants cause no matter how you look at it "im not normal in her eyes anyhow" so im not going to beet myself up trying to be.. i just want to be healthy!
i'll write and try and let everyone know
take care
God bless you all
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Date:April 29th, 2006 06:46 am (UTC)

Re: My diary talks about the "Easy Way Out" issue.

by the way i wanted to thank you for giving me your site, i read most of it to my husband. that was the first time that my husband accualy stoped playing his "everquest" (which i call that his evercrack because he can't stop playing it) and listend to me explain a lot of the stuff that im going to go through. i know im not going to have to worry about girls looking at me in a suductive way..lol.. but i don't think it occured to my husband that men might look at me differently till your words.. :) my husband has always known that he is the only one for me, but he has also had that "safety net" of me too big for any other mans eyes, so do you have any tips or sugestions on how i can reasure my husband once i do loose the weight that he will still be my one and only?
also i bookmarked your site so hubby can go to it anytime he wants to.. he does support me in this dessision so he is trying to learn all he can too.
well take care
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Date:May 1st, 2006 03:07 pm (UTC)

Re: My diary talks about the "Easy Way Out" issue.

After you lose 100 lbs. or more your husband might want to find ways to spend his time other than Everquest. Not a sermon, just a thought.

In fact, anyone who thinks that their partner's obesity makes them undesirable to genetic competition is fooling themselves. Think about it: I see something I like. What's more likely: 1) that my desires are unique in all the world so that no other human being would compete for what I want; or 2) that humanity consists of 7 billion individuals, each of whom like to fool themselves into thinking that their desires are unique? The money's on #2.

There is no "safety net" of unique desire. It's an egotistic delusion. I suggest that you encourage your husband to talk about his concerns with you from a perspective of helping him with the adjustment that you are already making.

I had a nutritionist and a psychiatrist within the bariatric surgeon's team and had to meet with them as part of the pre-op. I recommend that you work with your surgeon to find a GBS nutritionist and psychiatrist and bring your husband to talk about the transition. Tell your husband you want the psychiatrist to help your husband help you in your transition. Machismo makes men easy to manipulate, and the ruse of helping our women is a good deception to get us to do something that that would otherwise provike our macho insecurities.

Dammit I am well-trained.

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